How to Deal with People You Don’t Like at Workplace
Now, do you find it hard to get along with some people in your workplace? No matter what you do some people just always seem to get underneath your skin, that it often makes you dread going to work.
We are going to talk about that because the truth is, sometimes we are going to have to be around people we do not like. Whining and complaining about it will only make it worse. So, we are going to help you get over the resisting part and get you to become a master of your work relationships. Because if you do not know sure success and fulfillment in life is about mastering the relationships around you even if they are the ones that are most difficult.
So, let us get straight into it.
The four types of people you will have to deal with within your workplace.
1. Number one; the “woe is me”
This person loves to complain about everything. Here she truly believes life is out to get them. They will be the ones severely complaining about “why the grocery store didn’t use their dollar off coupon” or you know just to the complaining at work because they got a workload they should have gotten. How you deal with the “woe is me” is you just deal with them by not feeling their disdain for life.
When you cater to that behavior they will always come to your event, because you then become their audience. The woe is me is all about the drama, and drama needs an audience. Do don’t be their audience. Direct the conversation to one that is more neutral or by setting clear limits.
2. Number Two; “The clique keeper”
This person is the opposite of a team player. Instead, here she creates their own clique and you are either in it or not. This person has stuck with the high school model of how relationships should be and make it very hard for you to feel good about yourself if you are not in their group.
This group will be more than likely to be the gossipers on the team, as gossip needs a company and their group is a perfect company. How do you deal with the clique keeper? Play Switzerland and be a neutral party.
You do not have to be a part of anyone’s group. You doing you in the most friendly and caring way possible to send a message that you are not one to be pulled into a click for gossip. People no matter what personality at work will respect that. When they try to pull you in it, nonchalantly and politely change the subject to direct them to something the team can work on together instead.
3. Number Three; “The grumpy cat”
This person is very unapproachable and often and energy sucker. If you must work closely with them, you probably find it to be a drag because you may feel there is nothing you can do to get them out of their mood. Guess what? It is not your responsibility to change anyone’s mood. Your responsibility is to manage your own mood. With that said do not take their behavior personally. You can always set boundaries when you need to if they cross the lines but as we said before, you can focus on you and what you can give to the team it makes it hard for anyone to disrespect that.
4. Number four; “The opportunist”
This person will show up as a friend but will take full advantage of opportunities, even if it means throwing you under the bus. Just when you thought you could confide this person here; she is telling the boss everything you thought was a secret. This person may also be the star of the team, and in doing so, may dim other’s lights being buddies with the box.
Now we do not want you to be guarded and feel like you cannot trust anyone because of this. But how you deal with an opportunist is like this:
First, do not say anything that could compromise your job. Do not let them dim your light. But also, do not try to compete with them because most of the time an opportunist gets themselves into compromising situations. And that is just not something you want to be dragged into.
There you have it. Those are the 4 types of people that you may be working within. Remember, the only person you can ever control is yourself. So be sure to set clear boundaries, but do not take the behaviors of others personally. It takes a long time for people to develop behavior so do not worry it is not about you. But we do have to deal with people we do not necessarily like often and the best way to do this is just to manage our own behaviors and our emotions first. That sounds good. Cool!
Now we want to hear from you, what situation did you have with the personality type we listed above and how did you handle that?